Why I Started Blogging

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Writing is a funny thing ya know?

I originally found out about blogs, probably somewhere around the time I was a Junior in College, back in 2005.

I liked reading them and I often followed one’s dealing with poetry, since I was way into poets and poetry back then heavily.

I thought of posting some of my stuff online, but then I wondered where I would even have time to keep up a blog.

I mean I was a student, taking a heavy class load, involved in activities on campus (partying, mainly) and working.

So I dropped the idea.

Mainly, I kept my poetry on the pages of my notebooks and journals.

But, somewhere around 2010 I decided to start writing about some things that were going on around my city. That blog I started on Blogger, called “The Topic”.

I don’t remember what sparked this idea, other than I just wanted to voice my opinion and possibly entertain my friends and family while I was at it.

Thennnnn….

Along with the idea of writing a novel, I decided to create NicoleAliciaOnline.com. It was to be a lifestyle blog about any and everything. I talked about relationship issues and review different TV shows and movies. I guess my main purpose was to entertain, gain connections, while possibly inspiring someone along the way. That’s about it.

Kind of the same thing I’m doing now…

Why did you start blogging?

Let me know down in the comments…

Until next time…

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Re-Energize Yourself, It’s Almost Spring

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I don’t know about you but I hate cold weather!

I don’t like it…

But, then again I don’t like any extreme temps! Too hot, too cold it’s just not my thing!

Spring is my favorite season. It’s when all the colors start coming back. Trees starts blooming pretty whites and purples, grass starts turning from brown to green and flowers start blooming!

Cold weather I just despise. It seems to zap my energy!

All those long, cold dreary days just don’t do me any good.

So here we are on this 5th day of March and the actual start of Spring is March 20th less than 15 days away.

Spring is a perfect time to get re-energized and pray that this cold weather moves out for warmer temps so here’s a few things I’ll be doing to get ready for Spring…

Pick a new Bible Reading Plan

I haven’t been doing good with reading my word and want to get back on track with reading God’s word daily.

Doing Something Different To My Hair

When the season changes, often I feel the need to do something different to my look. I love changing my hairstyle and although I have tried it before I’m going to try to go “natural” and not process my hair which will be a challenge all in it’s self. I haven’t had a relaxer since December ’17 sooo, all my sista’s that are already natural and have transitioned to being natural, you know prayers are needed ūüôā

Finish Reading That Book I Started Reading, So I Can Start A New One

I’m on Goodreads and I have a reading list already for 2018, however I’ve been slacking so far. I’m on like the 100th page of Terry McMillan’s “Waiting To Exhale”. I have seen the movie zoozillion times, but wanted to read the book. It’s thick! I like it so far, but due to other writing duties I have assigned myself I have yet to keep pushing forward. However, my goal is to finish it this month. I want to start something new! (Yes, I try to finish one book before moving on to the next.)

Cleaning Up and Clearing Out

We all have heard of Spring cleaning. I do a little bit of this, but in a different way. My office right now is a complete wreck and needs a make over. I mean it’s such a mess, I’m embarrassed to show you (check my social media later I may share though). So giving one room in your house attention will definitely re-energize you. Whether it be buying new pillows for your sofa in your living room or organizing that horrible closet. I promise you you’ll feel better. (I say this as I’m grabbing a trash bag to clean out my office.)

Which leads me to my last one…

Shopping!!!

Who doesn’t like shopping, ladies! Season changes are the perfect excuse to go shopping! Now that you’ve cleaned up and cleared out that closet, put some new little tops and dresses in there to replace what you’ve cleared out. But, don’t go overboard :).

I hope in sharing some of the things I’ll be doing to get ready for Spring, I’ve inspired you…

What are some things you do to get ready for Spring? Are any of these on your list? Comment below!

Until next time…

 

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February Wrap-Up

February Wrap-Up

Hey!

So this month has been quite an eventful one news wise…

Personally, I’m exhausted trying to keep up with it all. I mean were already 3 months into 2018 and stuff just seems to be getting crazier and crazier out there doesn’t it.

Almost nothing makes sense anymore when I hear the news.

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But I digress…

On this last day of February 2018, I just wanted to check in with you my readers to see how things are going on your end.

How’s your year going so far?

Personally, I’ve been to two…count ’em…two funerals already (in the same month) and yep it’s only March so that was kind of depressing and zapped quite a bit of my energy.

On a more positive note, work is progressing on my second novel as I am currently at 14,000-ish words and counting. I’ve been distracted quite a bit, but I’m still struggling to stay at it.

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Well, I thought I’d just check in with you all to see what’s been happening on your end…let me know in the comments below how’s your 2018 so far.

Until next time…

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Nicole Alicia’s Top 10 Black “Time-Period” Movies

Nicole Alicia's Top 10 Black _Time-Period_ Movies

I love black history!

It’s not just a month for me…

I’ve always been interested in my family history on both sides. When we had to do family trees in school as a project, I got very excited to share and learn about my heritage.

I am African-American and our culture is rich and used to be built on legacy and heritage.

I’m am trying to keep that tradition with my son and pass on to him the love of learning about our history as a people and what was passed on to me from my great-grandparents, grandparents and my parents.

I just realized that I am a huge fan of what I call “time-period” movies.

Currently, I am writing a historical fiction novel based in the 1940’s. As I am delving deeper into my research, I started questioning the reason of why I am so interested in black history and certain time periods.

So I thought I’d share with you my top 10 list of Black “time-period” movies that I love to watch any time of the year, but especially since it’s Black History Month this is a timely kind of post, don’t ‘cha think?

So here we go…

  1. Crooklyn– Another Spike Lee Joint…as you know from previous posts I am a Spike Lee fan. I loved this from the first time I saw it though. Being an only child not only did it give me an active imagination of what it would be like to have brothers, but I related to Troy’s character in a certain way as a small girl as well. It was based in the late 60’s, early 70’s which is a time period that my mom and dad were fond of since they were in their teens and 20’s during this era. I still love to hear the stories of what took place back then.
  2. Dead Presidents– Ladies, I’ve always had a thing for Larenz Tate…he’s is too handsome. This one though I loved the plot, not so much the ending but the again how they based it around what was historically happening and the very real after affects of the Vietnam War, and then tying a great fictional story-line to it. Plus, it was the start of so many actors careers, like cry-baby Terrance Howard and Chris Tucker.
  3. The Inkwell-Again…Larenz Tate. I think this one may have resonated with me because he was spending a summer in an unfamiliar place…I too used to do that as well as a kid.
  4. American Gangster-It just amazes me I think also, what you could do back in the ’60’s and 70’s that people were getting away with. I’m a big fan of mob and criminal movies or movies based on a true stories I should say. This is another one I watch, over and over.
  5. Hoodlum-Closely related to the whole Frank Lucas story since it’s about Bumpy Johnson, Frank Lucas’s mentor. I mean you really can’t go wrong with a movie that has Cecily Tyson in it, can you?
  6. Harlem Nights-Do I even need to explain the greatness of this one? Classic! R.I.P. Charley Murphy
  7. Cooley High-This is somewhat of a comedy, but totally has a #squadgoals appeal to it, if you know what I mean. This is back when dudes, really had each other’s back. Another movie based in the 60’s…I have no idea what my fascination about this decade is? LOL!
  8. Corina, Corina-I think I may have watched this one so much as a little kid, I messed the VHS up! I think it’s one of the best acting roles Whoopi has ever played in. It’s a touching story about color lines also and my first real visualization of what segregation was back then. Again, the costume design on this one is so neat!
  9. Glory– I still watch this one just to see that one tear role down Denzel’s face. Classic!
  10. The Five Heartbeats/Dream Girls– Look I can’t leave these off over here, I just can’t! I know ALLL the songs to both movies and can’t decide which I like best.

 

I hope you like my list…leave comments below…let me know which is your favorite!!!

Until next time…

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Character Interview of Melody T. from the Novel “Drama University”

Character Interview of Melody T. from the Novel _Drama University_

My debut Novel “Drama University”¬†released in late 2017 is about Melody Thomas,¬† a girl that has some obstacles and handsome distractions she has to conquer. Since she’s the main character of my book, I thought I’d introduce you to her.

Here’s an interview I had with Melody back in 2005.

Nicole Alicia: So how are you today? Thank you for doing the interview…

Melody T.: Oh no problem…I had sometime in between classes so yeah…

Nicole Alicia: So describe your personality for the people who are wanting to know who is Melody T.

Melody T.:¬†Let see that’s a hard one…I’m really just a regular girl from Kansas City, Missouri. I’m really a rather shy and private person, I don’t like confrontation or drama. College has been a total eye opener into what I like about myself and don’t. Also what I want in a guy and don’t want. I’m looking for true love just like every girl here on campus. You know like the kind of love Sanaa and Omar Epps had on “Love and Basketball” or Nia Long and Larenz Tate in “Love Jones”. I like to have fun…ALOT. I’m discovering here just recently maybe a little too much fun isn’t good, ya know? I’m still learning myself…it’s a journey.

Nicole Alicia: Let’s get right into the “drama” then…what¬† really went wrong between you and Xavier? Y’all seemed like y’all were good there for a moment and then…

Melody T.:¬†Neither of us wanted to tell the truth. Trust and honesty is what we should have been relying on and that just wasn’t there…on either of our behalves. We were just two kids so in love we couldn’t even see straight.

Nicole Alicia: Do you ever talk to him anymore?

Melody T.: I see him at parties sometime. We’re still cordial, but that’s about it.

Nicole Alicia: That’s nice though, I’m not sure I could have been nice. I’d probably have straight ignored his existence girl.

Melody T.: Yeah, it’s hard we had so much history together…if¬† I could avoid him all together it would be great, but that’s life though.

Nicole Alicia:¬†Yes girl, I understand. So what about the others…Cam, Anthony and …

Melody T.: Look… you know that’s a long, long story…I’m not sure we even have time…

Nicole Alicia:¬†LOL Ok girl, I see. So that leads me to my next question…were you happy when Kianna dropped out? I mean y’all seemed like y’all were best friends even like sisters. That was scandalous what happened between y’all, I feel for you girl!

Melody T.:¬†*Sigh* I had so many mixed feeling over what happened ya know? I felt betrayed and I felt happy, but then some how responsible. I don’t know, that one I still haven’t figured out. But that’s a lesson learned ladies don’t let ya man get too close to your girlfriends, LOL!

Nicole Alicia: Do you ever think you’ll ever get back with Xavier or is it really truly over?

Melody T.:¬†So over! Nah. Once I can’t trust you, I’m done. He crossed so many lines I lost count. I can’t even trust him as a friend now. We’re done.¬†

Nicole Alicia:¬†That’s good to hear. So here’s a quirky question…what’s your favorite snack? Everybody has to have their favorite study snacks so what’s yours?

Melody T.: Mine…hmm…lemme see I love, love, love Sour Patch Kids and Popcorn. Oooh and also I kill a lot of Rice Crispie Treats their my favorite!

Nicole Alicia: Ok, ok I feel you on that…I love Twizzlers and Kettle Corn though myself. Well thanks for the interview…I know you probably have to run to your next class…

Melody T.: *Looks down at her phone* Yeah it’s time for me to run, but good talking to you!

You can get to know more about Melody in the novel, “Drama University” by yours truly Nicole Alicia.

Until next time…

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Love Letter To My Husband

Love Letter To My Husband

Dear Husband,

On this day, the 9th year of our engagement date I thought I would write you a letter…

Ever since that day at Uno’s on the Plaza, I knew you were someone special! Well, really probably that day I peeped out this cute little boy with the rat-tail on the back of his head, in the gym of Center Middle School that day we had that meet in 6th grade.

You have been more than a friend, you are my best friend. Really I couldn’t ask for a better friend and I can’t really thank you enough!

You have always been so sweet to me even when I have not been kind to myself. You accept me for who I am with all my quirks and odd ways. You love me even when were mad at each other, you force your lovely wet kisses on me LOL.

Even through out all our hardships, the miscarriages and the loss of Nicolas and my health issues you remained strong.

I could go on and on about the wonderful man I married, but I’ll leave it right here.

I thank God for you and pray that he continue to bless our union together.

I love you Robert!

Happy Valentine’s Day 2018

I pray we have many, many, many more!

 

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I Gave Up On Love…More Than Once

I Gave Up On Love...More Than Once

 

In life we have choices…

I mean isn’t that somewhat the point of it all?

Some choices we make are good…others bad.

Sometimes, we end up regretting a choice do we?

Some of us ladies, have decided before to stay in a crappy relationship when you knew it wasn’t going anywhere. On the other hand we may have passed up a really good guy for this crappy relationship.

Sound familiar?

Love is a choice.

Can I say that I have been in that place I’ve just described before, but I’ve also been in a place that after a really bad relationship I didn’t think that I’d ever find anyone to love or love me.

Now that’s a pretty low place to be in.

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I’m not going to re-write my heartbreak stories, because I have already given you a taste of that on the posts I wrote “Heartbreak Sucks Pt.1 & Heartbreak Sucks Pt.2” last year…so check those out so you can get a better understanding of where I’m coming from.

I have a friend who hasn’t even really tried to play “The Game”, but has totally given up on love due to a couple of bad relationships. I mean completely given up at the age of 34. She said she was D-O-N-E.

I have had way more heartbreaks than her and even a few when I got married (I know you want more on this, but it’s a post for another day).

I have been in that exact frame of mind so many times before though.

I am not one of those women who believe that love (particularly, love from a significant other) is the answer to it all.

We all know that it isn’t.

But, even after having my heart broken repetitively, something won’t let me quit!

I just somehow am not one of those that has been broken to the point of ever giving up. Now give up on that person or particular relationship…YES…I’m not cray cray. I mean just give up on love…

No that’s not me!

I believe even if you have been broken to that point, there is a way to repair your heart. Yes, I will say though that time is often the answer and NOT another person.

But, I personally don’t believe in ever giving up on finding true love.

I once gave up…

But, it was when I was least thinking about finding someone, when I was least wanting some companionship that I found someone (well, actually he found me…read Married at 24 series for that story.)

Point being, I CHOSE…although very reluctantly to let go of all those insecurities, other crappy relationships, stigmas other guys had put on me about my weight and personality…

It’s scary to put yourself in a place of vulnerability, to place your heart as well is scary…believe me it is…

Does it take time if you’re not there right now…yes but honey

It’s possible.

Love, is possible.

 

Until next time…

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Married at Twenty-Four: Part 3

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So… if you read the last post, “Married at Twenty-Four: Part 2” you know that I gave my then husband to be (although I didn’t know it then of course), a second chance and the rest is history.

I’d like to run down a few things for y’all real quick though so you don’t think I’m braggin on this marriage thing’.

I’m not special by any means!

Often when I tell people that I’ve been happily married for the last 8 years, often they first question is “Wow! How old are you?” (I’ve been told I look like a 20 year old, so yes I’m flattered when someone asks!)

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When we got married I was 24 years old and my husband was 25.

Did we think we were too young back then? Not at all. When we look back now though at 33 and 34, we are like WOW we were young.

My husband proposed on Valentine’s Day 2008.

It was actually very unexpected, because I thought I had been given my gift (a diamond necklace) earlier that day, so I was happy.

The proposal was during a candle light dinner at a nice little Italian restaurant.

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In our almost year of dating, I found out that not only did we like a lot of the same stuff, he possessed many of the qualities I had been looking for in a guy. We had become best friends. He wasn’t offended when I talked about my ex’s and other guys I had been with and I wasn’t offended either. We had so much in common, but so much that was different.

He shared with me that he always liked me in school, but didn’t know exactly how to talk to me because he felt that I was OUT OF HIS LEAGUE. Isn’t that crazy?! We had been thinking the same thing!

I see a lot of y’all single women out here, post things on social media. Some seem to have a very skewed perception of what a real loving relationship is and what marriage is.

The best advice I have found that has worked for me is…

A. It’s up to you to be clear on what YOU want. Not drawing a clear line is a dangerous place to hanging out! Setting clear boundaries is necessary.

B. It’s NOT up to YOU. Really when a man will propose is up to HIM. HE has to be ready to commit. (Contrary to popular belief, you can’t make him, you can’t trick him into marriage. Conning someone into what you THINK is a life long commitment is a failure from the beginning.)

We both were what I’d consider very mature though. We had college degrees, our own apartments, own cars, own jobs. We were on the same page as far as where we wanted to go in life and goals.

I think that’s the most important part as well.

Have your own ‘ish together before you get with someone.

If you’re not on the same page..hate to tell you, but it’s most likely not going to work for long.

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At the end of the day, I think how ever you put it together it has to be what works for two as a whole. Not what works for your girlfriends or your sister, but what works for you two as a couple!

Trust me ladies, FOREVER doesn’t seem that long if you are truly with someone who is your friend. We started off as friends. I was very clear on what I wanted and what was acceptable and unacceptable. Is he perfect? By no means! I still have to tell him repetitively that leaving your drawls in the bathroom or leaving the toilet seat up is super annoying after living with this man for over 12 years. You see where I’m going with this?

Has the last 8 years been a cake-walk? Heck no. But, has it been worth it?

Yes!!!

Until next time…

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