3 Tips To Survive Networking Events For Writers

3 Tips To Survive Networking Events For Writers

If you’re a writer like me, you’re most likely and introvert.

I know all of us aren’t, but for the most part we are.

We were kids who liked playing make believe, writing stories about non-existent worlds or characters who only existed in our minds. Then we became adults and that same thing carried over. Now were fiction writers, writing about complex characters who sometimes exist in made up worlds.

Cool, right?!

Most of us writers would rather sit at home with a glass of wine, and our laptop than go explain to a group of people what it is that we do and what that book we wrote is about.

Coming up this month, I have two different opportunities to  attend networking events. I am not only a writer/author, I am also an entrepreneur. In addition to being an author, I also sell handmade goods and vintage items on Etsy.

However, I usually avoid networking events like the plague.

I mean it’s not that I don’t like people…it’s just I really hate being put on the spot!

I get all twitchy, figit-y and uncomfortable in large social scenes as it is. I am getting better at it, but to have to speak or be put on the spot I get sweaty and sometime my mind goes blank honestly.

My husband is the total opposite…he is a social kind of guy. So I went to him and told him about my slight social anxiety problem and he gave me the following tips that I thought I’d share with you all…

Don’t think about it so much- My husband tells me that I often overthink stuff. But he gets my personality. I’m just naturally shy. But getting out amongst actual people is a great way to meet others that do the same thing you do. If you don’t think about it so much and mull over it and (try to find silly excuses like I did) you’ll just “Do It” like Nike.

Put on your heels or flats and give it a go- dress up, make it fun! Be yourself! If some ask a difficult or annoying question try to be personable and just answer to the best of your ability, then laugh about it later. You can never beat yourself up for being YOU! 

Try and relax…enjoy some good ‘ol real human interaction – It’s difficult for some of us. Online is easy! But there’s nothing like seeing a persons actual reaction on their face when you tell them what you do.

Do you like networking? Social settings?  How do you handle it? Comment!

Until next time…

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My Worry For Tomorrow’s Generation

My Worry For Tomorrow's Generation

I don’t normally like to voice my opinion on things in the news, but on this one I had to.

When I was in school, I generally felt safe. Aside from the one time someone threatened to fight me, I went to school with no worries that physically I would not be harmed.

I went to schools in the suburbs of Kansas City, Missouri.

I guess they call them “urban” schools now, but what ever.

In middle school, I saw a pretty violent fight where this girls head was thrown into a window and her nose bloodied. That was the worst thing I had experienced as far as violence.

We had bomb threats against our school regularly, but no one really thought much of it.

We just assumed it was a student trying to get out of taking a test or a disgruntled parent, whose child had been suspended.

We did fire drills and tornado drills on the regular, but that was it. Now in school, a nephew of ours tells us they have active shooter drills? I guess he’s been having to do this since he started elementary school.

When I was in high school, Columbine occurred somewhere around 1999-2000, when I was a Sophomore. Incidentally, this guy who always wore a trench coat to school all the time, I’m talking way before that incident occurred was asked to stop wearing it. He meant no harm, it was just part of his “Goth” style.

Even after Columbine, I felt safe at school.

We had security guards that we knew, on a first name basis and were often the reason many of the students stayed inline. They made an effort to get to know the students, know about their home life and even maybe lend a dollar or two to those who didn’t have lunch money or wanted to get a snack cake or candy from our student concession stand.

But now, almost 18 years later ( I graduated from high school 2002), violence seems to be the norm sadly.

As a parent, I worry. When I drop my  child off at school will I see them alive again.

Here recently, I read about a girl from Alabama who was shot in class by a student that apparently had nothing to do with her.


But, then sadly last year here in a suburb of Kansas City called Lee’s Summit a girl took her own life.

I’m not only saddened, I’m sick!

In only a few months my son will be starting school.

What is this sickness in our world?

Is it a problem with the parents or lack there of? Do we blame society? Do we blame laws? Do we blame children individually?

Today, I hear kids are walking out of school here in Kansas City to protest the whole Florida shooting that occurred last month…and this is right of them!

Not writing this for views, but rather to try and express the upset and shame and worry I have for the generation to come.

Until next time…

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Be Your Own Fan Club

Believe In Yourself

When I started writing, for some odd reason I thought I would have this cheering section. Like really…

I assumed since I was blogging, automatically readers would come to my blog.

The biggest misconception in all of this, was that I would have the full support of at least friends and family.

This turned out to be the biggest lie of them all, that I told myself.

When you are an artist or a creator, or do things that are different from the norm, most of the time you’re not going to have support you think you’ll get.

Well, at least not in my experience.

I had so many people ask me the question, “You still doing that blog thing,” or my favorite “Hey, how are those book sales coming?”

But, when it came down to my first book being published some friends and family who said they would support me by either reading it or buy it, didn’t.

That’s why I decided along time ago as a writer and entrepreneur, in all the other endevours that I do, that I, myself have to cheer myself on.

If you wait for people to cheer you on, especially your own family and/or friends…hate to tell you, but you’ll be so disappointed.

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If no one takes you seriously about writing, opening a business or whatever…please take YOURSELF seriously.

I love my readers!

95% of you all I don’t know, but I thank YOU for your support and your continued feedback!

Have you ever relied on someone to cheer you on and they didn’t? What happened? Were you surprised? How did you feel?

Comment below…

Until next time…

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Why I Started Blogging


Writing is a funny thing ya know?

I originally found out about blogs, probably somewhere around the time I was a Junior in College, back in 2005.

I liked reading them and I often followed one’s dealing with poetry, since I was way into poets and poetry back then heavily.

I thought of posting some of my stuff online, but then I wondered where I would even have time to keep up a blog.

I mean I was a student, taking a heavy class load, involved in activities on campus (partying, mainly) and working.

So I dropped the idea.

Mainly, I kept my poetry on the pages of my notebooks and journals.

But, somewhere around 2010 I decided to start writing about some things that were going on around my city. That blog I started on Blogger, called “The Topic”.

I don’t remember what sparked this idea, other than I just wanted to voice my opinion and possibly entertain my friends and family while I was at it.


Along with the idea of writing a novel, I decided to create NicoleAliciaOnline.com. It was to be a lifestyle blog about any and everything. I talked about relationship issues and review different TV shows and movies. I guess my main purpose was to entertain, gain connections, while possibly inspiring someone along the way. That’s about it.

Kind of the same thing I’m doing now…

Why did you start blogging?

Let me know down in the comments…

Until next time…

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Re-Energize Yourself, It’s Almost Spring



I don’t know about you but I hate cold weather!

I don’t like it…

But, then again I don’t like any extreme temps! Too hot, too cold it’s just not my thing!

Spring is my favorite season. It’s when all the colors start coming back. Trees starts blooming pretty whites and purples, grass starts turning from brown to green and flowers start blooming!

Cold weather I just despise. It seems to zap my energy!

All those long, cold dreary days just don’t do me any good.

So here we are on this 5th day of March and the actual start of Spring is March 20th less than 15 days away.

Spring is a perfect time to get re-energized and pray that this cold weather moves out for warmer temps so here’s a few things I’ll be doing to get ready for Spring…

Pick a new Bible Reading Plan

I haven’t been doing good with reading my word and want to get back on track with reading God’s word daily.

Doing Something Different To My Hair

When the season changes, often I feel the need to do something different to my look. I love changing my hairstyle and although I have tried it before I’m going to try to go “natural” and not process my hair which will be a challenge all in it’s self. I haven’t had a relaxer since December ’17 sooo, all my sista’s that are already natural and have transitioned to being natural, you know prayers are needed 🙂

Finish Reading That Book I Started Reading, So I Can Start A New One

I’m on Goodreads and I have a reading list already for 2018, however I’ve been slacking so far. I’m on like the 100th page of Terry McMillan’s “Waiting To Exhale”. I have seen the movie zoozillion times, but wanted to read the book. It’s thick! I like it so far, but due to other writing duties I have assigned myself I have yet to keep pushing forward. However, my goal is to finish it this month. I want to start something new! (Yes, I try to finish one book before moving on to the next.)

Cleaning Up and Clearing Out

We all have heard of Spring cleaning. I do a little bit of this, but in a different way. My office right now is a complete wreck and needs a make over. I mean it’s such a mess, I’m embarrassed to show you (check my social media later I may share though). So giving one room in your house attention will definitely re-energize you. Whether it be buying new pillows for your sofa in your living room or organizing that horrible closet. I promise you you’ll feel better. (I say this as I’m grabbing a trash bag to clean out my office.)

Which leads me to my last one…


Who doesn’t like shopping, ladies! Season changes are the perfect excuse to go shopping! Now that you’ve cleaned up and cleared out that closet, put some new little tops and dresses in there to replace what you’ve cleared out. But, don’t go overboard :).

I hope in sharing some of the things I’ll be doing to get ready for Spring, I’ve inspired you…

What are some things you do to get ready for Spring? Are any of these on your list? Comment below!

Until next time…


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February Wrap-Up

February Wrap-Up


So this month has been quite an eventful one news wise…

Personally, I’m exhausted trying to keep up with it all. I mean were already 3 months into 2018 and stuff just seems to be getting crazier and crazier out there doesn’t it.

Almost nothing makes sense anymore when I hear the news.

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But I digress…

On this last day of February 2018, I just wanted to check in with you my readers to see how things are going on your end.

How’s your year going so far?

Personally, I’ve been to two…count ’em…two funerals already (in the same month) and yep it’s only March so that was kind of depressing and zapped quite a bit of my energy.

On a more positive note, work is progressing on my second novel as I am currently at 14,000-ish words and counting. I’ve been distracted quite a bit, but I’m still struggling to stay at it.

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Well, I thought I’d just check in with you all to see what’s been happening on your end…let me know in the comments below how’s your 2018 so far.

Until next time…

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Nicole Alicia’s Top 10 Black “Time-Period” Movies

Nicole Alicia's Top 10 Black _Time-Period_ Movies

I love black history!

It’s not just a month for me…

I’ve always been interested in my family history on both sides. When we had to do family trees in school as a project, I got very excited to share and learn about my heritage.

I am African-American and our culture is rich and used to be built on legacy and heritage.

I’m am trying to keep that tradition with my son and pass on to him the love of learning about our history as a people and what was passed on to me from my great-grandparents, grandparents and my parents.

I just realized that I am a huge fan of what I call “time-period” movies.

Currently, I am writing a historical fiction novel based in the 1940’s. As I am delving deeper into my research, I started questioning the reason of why I am so interested in black history and certain time periods.

So I thought I’d share with you my top 10 list of Black “time-period” movies that I love to watch any time of the year, but especially since it’s Black History Month this is a timely kind of post, don’t ‘cha think?

So here we go…

  1. Crooklyn– Another Spike Lee Joint…as you know from previous posts I am a Spike Lee fan. I loved this from the first time I saw it though. Being an only child not only did it give me an active imagination of what it would be like to have brothers, but I related to Troy’s character in a certain way as a small girl as well. It was based in the late 60’s, early 70’s which is a time period that my mom and dad were fond of since they were in their teens and 20’s during this era. I still love to hear the stories of what took place back then.
  2. Dead Presidents– Ladies, I’ve always had a thing for Larenz Tate…he’s is too handsome. This one though I loved the plot, not so much the ending but the again how they based it around what was historically happening and the very real after affects of the Vietnam War, and then tying a great fictional story-line to it. Plus, it was the start of so many actors careers, like cry-baby Terrance Howard and Chris Tucker.
  3. The Inkwell-Again…Larenz Tate. I think this one may have resonated with me because he was spending a summer in an unfamiliar place…I too used to do that as well as a kid.
  4. American Gangster-It just amazes me I think also, what you could do back in the ’60’s and 70’s that people were getting away with. I’m a big fan of mob and criminal movies or movies based on a true stories I should say. This is another one I watch, over and over.
  5. Hoodlum-Closely related to the whole Frank Lucas story since it’s about Bumpy Johnson, Frank Lucas’s mentor. I mean you really can’t go wrong with a movie that has Cecily Tyson in it, can you?
  6. Harlem Nights-Do I even need to explain the greatness of this one? Classic! R.I.P. Charley Murphy
  7. Cooley High-This is somewhat of a comedy, but totally has a #squadgoals appeal to it, if you know what I mean. This is back when dudes, really had each other’s back. Another movie based in the 60’s…I have no idea what my fascination about this decade is? LOL!
  8. Corina, Corina-I think I may have watched this one so much as a little kid, I messed the VHS up! I think it’s one of the best acting roles Whoopi has ever played in. It’s a touching story about color lines also and my first real visualization of what segregation was back then. Again, the costume design on this one is so neat!
  9. Glory– I still watch this one just to see that one tear role down Denzel’s face. Classic!
  10. The Five Heartbeats/Dream Girls– Look I can’t leave these off over here, I just can’t! I know ALLL the songs to both movies and can’t decide which I like best.


I hope you like my list…leave comments below…let me know which is your favorite!!!

Until next time…

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Character Interview of Melody T. from the Novel “Drama University”

Character Interview of Melody T. from the Novel _Drama University_

My debut Novel “Drama University” released in late 2017 is about Melody Thomas,  a girl that has some obstacles and handsome distractions she has to conquer. Since she’s the main character of my book, I thought I’d introduce you to her.

Here’s an interview I had with Melody back in 2005.

Nicole Alicia: So how are you today? Thank you for doing the interview…

Melody T.: Oh no problem…I had sometime in between classes so yeah…

Nicole Alicia: So describe your personality for the people who are wanting to know who is Melody T.

Melody T.: Let see that’s a hard one…I’m really just a regular girl from Kansas City, Missouri. I’m really a rather shy and private person, I don’t like confrontation or drama. College has been a total eye opener into what I like about myself and don’t. Also what I want in a guy and don’t want. I’m looking for true love just like every girl here on campus. You know like the kind of love Sanaa and Omar Epps had on “Love and Basketball” or Nia Long and Larenz Tate in “Love Jones”. I like to have fun…ALOT. I’m discovering here just recently maybe a little too much fun isn’t good, ya know? I’m still learning myself…it’s a journey.

Nicole Alicia: Let’s get right into the “drama” then…what  really went wrong between you and Xavier? Y’all seemed like y’all were good there for a moment and then…

Melody T.: Neither of us wanted to tell the truth. Trust and honesty is what we should have been relying on and that just wasn’t there…on either of our behalves. We were just two kids so in love we couldn’t even see straight.

Nicole Alicia: Do you ever talk to him anymore?

Melody T.: I see him at parties sometime. We’re still cordial, but that’s about it.

Nicole Alicia: That’s nice though, I’m not sure I could have been nice. I’d probably have straight ignored his existence girl.

Melody T.: Yeah, it’s hard we had so much history together…if  I could avoid him all together it would be great, but that’s life though.

Nicole Alicia: Yes girl, I understand. So what about the others…Cam, Anthony and …

Melody T.: Look… you know that’s a long, long story…I’m not sure we even have time…

Nicole Alicia: LOL Ok girl, I see. So that leads me to my next question…were you happy when Kianna dropped out? I mean y’all seemed like y’all were best friends even like sisters. That was scandalous what happened between y’all, I feel for you girl!

Melody T.: *Sigh* I had so many mixed feeling over what happened ya know? I felt betrayed and I felt happy, but then some how responsible. I don’t know, that one I still haven’t figured out. But that’s a lesson learned ladies don’t let ya man get too close to your girlfriends, LOL!

Nicole Alicia: Do you ever think you’ll ever get back with Xavier or is it really truly over?

Melody T.: So over! Nah. Once I can’t trust you, I’m done. He crossed so many lines I lost count. I can’t even trust him as a friend now. We’re done. 

Nicole Alicia: That’s good to hear. So here’s a quirky question…what’s your favorite snack? Everybody has to have their favorite study snacks so what’s yours?

Melody T.: Mine…hmm…lemme see I love, love, love Sour Patch Kids and Popcorn. Oooh and also I kill a lot of Rice Crispie Treats their my favorite!

Nicole Alicia: Ok, ok I feel you on that…I love Twizzlers and Kettle Corn though myself. Well thanks for the interview…I know you probably have to run to your next class…

Melody T.: *Looks down at her phone* Yeah it’s time for me to run, but good talking to you!

You can get to know more about Melody in the novel, “Drama University” by yours truly Nicole Alicia.

Until next time…

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