Grow From It


It’s easy to get stuck in life.

Dating, work, parenting (if you’re there), relationships and on and on!

I’ve had some pretty crappy experiences in life.

I could have easily just threw in the towel and said forget it. From break ups, bad dating experiences, loss of friends, miscarriages, layoffs, crappy jobs.

So many bad experiences can really put a bad taste in your mouth. They can leave you bitter and just plain angry.

It’s been a rough road, but I’m still learning and growing and I’m in my 30’s.

When I say grow, I don’t mean just forget what happened and move on. I mean feel how you feel, go through the motions, be present and learn something from it.

In life we’re not supposed to ever stop growing and learning. Personal growth is a life long thing.

Most recently on Tuesday this week, rapper Gucci Mane got married. Everyone is talking about how he came out of prison looking great, made an album, got off probation and proposed to his long time girlfriend. Point of the story is that there was some type of growth that took place.

I can only speak for myself, but I know sometimes for me things that happen negative in your life seems like the end of the world. But it’s not.

When you end up getting hurt from a bad break up, instead of tattooing “I hate men” on yourself, try to reexamine.

I know most of us are like what?

It was all his fault I didn’t have anything to do with whoever. This is probably true! I agree. But what can you take away from the situation that you can use to better yourself next time? Sometimes it’s about analyzing ourselves first before pointing the finger at someone else.

Some once said, “If you know better, you do better”.

Once again it’s a practice. Not a destination, but a journey.

Until next time lovely ladies…

-Nicole Alicia


Published by Nicole Alicia

Nicole Alicia is a fiction writer and blogger from Kansas City, Missouri. You can find her debut novel "Drama University" on!

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