Halloween Then Vs. Now

Halloween Then Vs. Now

I was born in the 80’s. A carefree time where life consisted of Smurf Cartoons in the morning and watching Ninja Turtles when I got home from school. Recess was the highlight of my school day.

Being an only child wasn’t lonely for me all the time. I made up imaginary worlds, drove my dolls around town in my pretend car, with a Frisbee as the steering wheel in our plaid love seat in the living room of our cozy apartment.

Back then Halloween wasn’t really a big deal with my parent. I wasn’t forced to go to “Hallelujah Night” at church, thank God. My Mom said I could pick out whatever costume as long as it wasn’t something like a witch or a devil or something super scary. So, I got to pick my costume, paint my face and went to something here in Kansas City at the Mall called “Trick-Or-Treat Village”.

It was exciting for me, they made a little village in the mall, painted it to look like little houses and people dressed up to hand out candy. Simple!

Because we lived in a an apartment complex and my grandparents didn’t live in a good neighborhood, going door to door to Trick-Or-Treat just wasn’t a great option at that time. When we moved to a house when I was about 10, my dad took me to a few houses around the neighborhood, but being in the cold and dark really wasn’t my thing.

Anyways in short, Halloween was enjoyable for me. My parents didn’t go all out and it wasn’t a big deal to me.

I got all the candy I wanted. Didn’t have to share with any siblings.

Although, somehow my candy stash would dwindle down mysteriously with out me knowing it (thanks mom and dad).

However, now as a parent of a 4 year old, for the past couple years we go to a few Trunk-Or- Treats. We live on a street that doesn’t have very good lighting after dark, so not many of the kids come our way.

My husband on the other hand, Halloween was a bit different for him. Halloween was a big deal in their house, because both him and his sister had October Birthdays. He went door to door to Trick-Or-Treat, and wants to go here there and everywhere to Trick-Or-Treat with our son.

In past years we haven’t had the best luck. Either people just aren’t handing out candy or they are out taking their kids Trick-Or-Treating.

I’m not a fan of door to door Trick-Or-Treating, really. For safety reasons and personal reasons. For that my husband thinks I’m super weird.

So what if I don’t want to be out in the cold and dark to get candy, I’d rather stay here handing out candy, watching scary movies and eating pizza.

How do you guys do Halloween? Is it different than when you were growing up?

Until next time…

Nicole Alicia sig



Surviving The Holidays: A How-To For The Anti-Social

Surviving The Holidays_ A How-To For The Anti-Social

Thanksgiving is Thursday!!!

For a lot of you this is maybe your favorite time of the year.

For some us of us, ehhhh not so much!

Let’s face it the holidays are a wonderful time, but it can also be very awkward and uncomfortable for us introverts and anti-social ladies out there.

There’s  family functions, family get together, parties and such. If you’re like me, maybe the thought of all the holiday events, present buying and cooking isn’t so energizing to you.

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You may not necessarily like or get along with certain family members. Maybe this is the one time of the year you dread having to be around family members, because of those daunting questions of “When are you getting married? Who are dating now?” Or my favorite, “When are you guys having kids or more kids?”

But, it’s the holiday’s and the holiday’s are supposed to be about family. Since many times were forced to go to these functions, I have a couple of tips to help:

Make an attempt to say “Hi” to everyone. Don’t be rude. It may be a bit of stretch, seeing that you probably don’t want to be there, but at least try to be cordial before you dip out.

Bring some sort of technology. A tablet, a phone an e-reader. This is probably an obvious one. But DON’T FORGET YOUR CHARGER. Depending on how long you’re gonna be stuck there, you don’t want to run out of battery or you’ll be forced to watch that boring football game with Uncle Joe or be subjected to either advice you don’t care to hear from your half drunk Aunt.


Wi-fi may not be available. Grandma may not even know “what the code to the Wi-Fi” is. Heck she may not even have Wi-Fi (Bless you if this the situation). Keep in mind if you have Netflix, you can download your favorite shows to your device and watch them with out having to be on the internet!

Find a space to chill out at. Maybe it’s a corner, a particular chair or a TV room no one uses. Sometimes with a house full of noisy people and just noise period, it can be unnerving. I like to escape to the basement when I go to my family’s house…my cousin’s are usually down there, but it’s fairly quiet.`1


Prep the night before. Try to get enough rest the night before an event. Pack those headphones! Don’t forget your charger.

Plan an event that is energizing after the main family function. Maybe you have a couple of cousins you only see once or twice a year. Go do some shopping, go to breakfast or catch a movie. Make it something you’ll look forward to.

Take sometime to be by yourself. For most introverts, social events are very draining. We aren’t energized by social events at all. It’s OK. Take some time to do something for yourself the next day or that week if possible. Sit down, enjoy a cup of coffee or hot cocoa, finish reading that book. Do some online shopping (because we avoid crowded stores don’t we?). Do what is needed to recharge your batteries so you don’t end up totally shutting down.

Happy Thanksgiving, ladies!

-Nicole Alicia