Friendship Is…

Friendship Is...

Hard. Interesting. Fun. Exciting. Tough.

“Friends? How many of us have them?”

A question posed by one of my favorite old school rap groups Whodini.

TLC asked, “What about your friends?”

These are such interesting questions.

But for real, there is a common theme you will see through out my debut novel Drama University. I loved school! Not all for the academics, though. I mean I was interested in certain subjects, but really school was about the social aspect for me.

I woke up excited thinking about what my friends and I were gonna do that day, when we went to play outside at daycare or at school. Later on in high school, it was really about friends. I have always been shy. I am just now realizing I am and have always been a bit socially awkward.

Social situations often make me nervous.

Even if it’s people I’ve known for years.

I’m an introvert at heart and really am just now coming out of my shell. Just a bit…

Many times in my writing, I write story lines dealing with friends or friendships among different types of characters.

Now days, as an young woman in her 30’s I find it  hard to connect sometimes.

I mean I’ve been out of school for almost 10 years and high school coming up on 16 years, I think it is. I only have one friend I have stayed in consistent contact with since middle school.

School provides a very unique setting where you’re around your peers all day long, all the time mostly. In life as an adult your not constantly surround by your friends. People have jobs and kids and a million other responsibilities and sometimes it’s just down right hard.

I love creating, dissecting and looking into my characters lives and structuring how they interact. I think it’s important to bring to the forefront the good and bad aspects of female friendships. As girls/young women I believe we often share something sacred and special.

Friendships have always been a struggle for me and I’m just now examining why in my 30’s. I have found that I am quick to cut people off and I’m working on that.

We all need that one true person to go through life with!

How do you see most friendships about girls/women written in literature today? What do you think about the portrail of friendship in novels? Do you have a favorite duo?

Comment below!

Until next time…have a blessed weekend!

-Nicole Alicia



Published by Nicole Alicia

Nicole Alicia is a fiction writer and blogger from Kansas City, Missouri. You can find her debut novel "Drama University" on!

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