In life we have choices…
I mean isn’t that somewhat the point of it all?
Some choices we make are good…others bad.
Sometimes, we end up regretting a choice do we?
Some of us ladies, have decided before to stay in a crappy relationship when you knew it wasn’t going anywhere. On the other hand we may have passed up a really good guy for this crappy relationship.
Love is a choice.
Can I say that I have been in that place I’ve just described before, but I’ve also been in a place that after a really bad relationship I didn’t think that I’d ever find anyone to love or love me.
Now that’s a pretty low place to be in.
I’m not going to re-write my heartbreak stories, because I have already given you a taste of that on the posts I wrote “Heartbreak Sucks Pt.1 & Heartbreak Sucks Pt.2” last year…so check those out so you can get a better understanding of where I’m coming from.
I have a friend who hasn’t even really tried to play “The Game”, but has totally given up on love due to a couple of bad relationships. I mean completely given up at the age of 34. She said she was D-O-N-E.
I have had way more heartbreaks than her and even a few when I got married (I know you want more on this, but it’s a post for another day).
I have been in that exact frame of mind so many times before though.
I am not one of those women who believe that love (particularly, love from a significant other) is the answer to it all.
We all know that it isn’t.
But, even after having my heart broken repetitively, something won’t let me quit!
I just somehow am not one of those that has been broken to the point of ever giving up. Now give up on that person or particular relationship…YES…I’m not cray cray. I mean just give up on love…
No that’s not me!
I believe even if you have been broken to that point, there is a way to repair your heart. Yes, I will say though that time is often the answer and NOT another person.
But, I personally don’t believe in ever giving up on finding true love.
I once gave up…
But, it was when I was least thinking about finding someone, when I was least wanting some companionship that I found someone (well, actually he found me…read Married at 24 series for that story.)
Point being, I CHOSE…although very reluctantly to let go of all those insecurities, other crappy relationships, stigmas other guys had put on me about my weight and personality…
It’s scary to put yourself in a place of vulnerability, to place your heart as well is scary…believe me it is…
Does it take time if you’re not there right now…yes but honey
Love, is possible.
Until next time…